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You Are Self-Reliant 👍

Self-actualization is important for personal growth and is thought to be an essential need that motivates our behavior. Those who are independent and self-reliant tend to survive and function better in society than those who are dependent on others for their happiness and sustainability. Taking control of basic things (everyday) will not only help you stay in control of your own life but will ultimately contribute to making you a happy and independent person. 

Develop Independent Habits 

Take responsibility for your life. 

Part of being self-reliant is undertaking certain responsibilities that enable you to experience independence.That is; doing simple things such as cleaning up after yourself if you make a mess, paying your bills on time, and going to work on time or doing your school work on time can help you feel more responsible and self-reliant. 

For instance, If you don’t have a job, it’s your responsibility to look for a job. It’s your responsibility to seek education that will lead to employment. It's your duty to start your own business. 

Be Informed 

Information is such a powerful tool, so having information will give you the power to make your own decisions and assert your independence. Ensure you are well-rounded and keep up with information about what is going on in your place of work, or school. Find out what is going on in your city, your state, your country, and the world. 

For Instance, knowing that a local council is sponsoring certain people for a particular course for free, can give you the opportunity to decide if you want to hone your skills in that area. Acquiring some skills can ultimately improve your chances of getting promotion at work. 

Know yourself and where you are going

Having a sense of direction is very important in life. You should have a sense of direction. There must be something that drives you. 

For Instance, if you are attending university or doing some courses, you should at least have an idea of what you want to do after the completion. Know what you are passionate about. Try and set goals for yourself. You can try setting short-term, medium-term, and long-term goals. It’s not good enough to set goals, you have to be realistic about what you need to do to meet those goals. 

The internet is saturated with information. Go out there and search for it. Seek out a career counselor if you are not sure what you would like to do with your life. There are career assessment websites like MyNextMove.com, Myplan.com, iseek and many more. Many websites like these can offer helpful guidance. 

Some Universities and colleges have career centers or guidance counselors available for their students. These resources can help you shape a vision for your future. 

Make your own decisions

This is your life, take charge now! Don’t allow people to make decisions or suggest things that you are not comfortable doing. When you allow people to make decisions for you, this is essentially giving up your independence and self-reliance. Think deeply about your dreams. Assert yourself and make decisions for yourself based on your goals and aspirations. While it is important to listen to other people's suggestions or seek the counsel of others, it is necessary not to give up your ability to make your own decisions. 

For Instance, if you are planning to study for a law degree and your friend suggests that you are good at looking after people, and then suggests you study medicine. You and I know that this could lead to frustration😒 and ultimately giving up. Stick with your plans and don’t allow your friend to talk you into something that you don’t want to do. 

This is also very common in relationships when people allow their spouses or significant others to make all the decisions. Ensure you have a say in your relationship, don’t allow your other half to make all the decisions because it's your life too. Having a part to play in decision making on a daily basis and long-term can give you greater feeling of satisfaction. 

We all need each other in this life but it’s important you have a mind of your own. Be confident in your own abilities and be able to do things for yourself; not relying on other people at all times.